There are a lot of things that requires attention but often people forgot about the heart.
That is where the troubles and pain comes from, at the same time, that is also where beautiful things come from too. For the bible says “For where your treasure is, there will your heart be also.” Matthew 6:21.
“The LORD is near to the brokenhearted and saves the crushed in spirit” Psalms 34:18.
For whatever reasons, when the heart grieves, or when the heart voices out, God always hears our cry and looks at it nakedly, just as you are.
There are some things better said then done, However when it comes to the heart matters, it can be downright simple or downright complicated. For me, I really do wish it is downright simple but in the process of healing, it certainly is not. It is the power to love again and to keep the conscience to love yourself to really understand who that inner child is and to keep a conversation with the past and to keep yourself vulnerable and yet equally open to hurts and wounds as well. To me that was hard.
For a lot of us, including me myself, we all have a lot of past hurt still remaining. Most of them are usually because we kept strong, and denied talking ourselves into an emotional battle and our inner childs. I, myself am still making the effort to look myself in the mirror and to tell myself who I am, my real identity: The child of God. And that God loves me very much that he has given up his one and only son.
The most important thing about self healing is when you identify which part of you was hurting during your childhood memories or even the recent ones. Please do not judge yourselves and set the fire on yourselves before really inspecting the situation and choose the empathy side who does not take sides but understands both sides. Give yourselves some time to identify those situations, most of the time, God will reveal to you when you ask for it. And then during those times, there is often the inner child where you either ignore or when you were dominant over the situation and forgot to soothe the child leaving the after-impacts.
If you still have hatred and pain towards the other side, please take time to heal before really talking to them. And if they still choose to go on to their own paths of an abusive relationship with you, PLEASE LEAVE THE RELATIONSHIP. Do not choose to stay on when all they had was their abusive waste on you. YOU ARE NOT A TRASH CAN TO TAKE THEIR EMOTIONS AND THEIR PAST HURTS. If your words don’t take effect on them, it might as well be good enough to leave the relationship and to put it on hold until they completely heal themselves. People forget that relationships can hurt from the family side too and friends not only romantic relationships. The level of negativity in a relationship will affect you at some point in your life especially if it’s more than what you can handle.
It is not easy to stop talking or to leave such a relationship because they will start blaming you without saying sorry or daring to confront you with their problems. If that’s the case, leave it first at that. Focus on what you have to do and focus on all the good things in your life. Find a support group and always surround yourselves with people who genuinely care and love you. Where negativity thrives, there is also love outside there which is much more stronger in fact ten times stronger than hatred and pain. Always choose love, don’t choose hate. But if you are in the situation where you still hate, give yourself some time, understand that you need time to heal as well, choose to forgive and put the matter on side first. And let the healing begin.
Psalms 73:26 My flesh and my heart may fail, but God is the strength of my heart and my portion forever.
“Your most profound and intimate experiences of worship will likely be in your darkest days – when your heart is broken, when you feel abandoned, when your out of options, when the pain is great – and you turn to God alone.” ~ Rick Warren
P.S:When the heart is broken, there is usually a great revealing from God coming soon. Promise me to accept the gift with an open hand, okay?